Written by Caitlin Schuler, Graduate Assistant for Disability Resources Office
Living on campus can be an adjustment for anyone. For a student it can be the first time they live away from their parents, it could be the first time that they have to come up with their own schedule, or it can be the first time they have to share a living space. This is a daunting task for anyone, but then if you add living on campus while having a disability, whether it is apparent or not, this task can seem almost impossible. Here are some tips for managing this new living situation, whether you or your roommate has a disability.
For the student with a disability, it can be hard to be open about your disability. It is especially easier when your roommates can see your disability because it could force the conversation to happen. If your disability is not apparent, the conversation could be harder to start. You might fear that your roommates won’t believe you. Or if your disability does not affect your day to day living, maybe your roommates need not know about it and so there’s no need for the conversation.
No matter the situation, communication is key. Be up front with your roommates about what you can and cannot do to contribute to your living space. In a typical residence hall where you share a room with a roommate, talk about your access to things, what kind of lighting works for you, what scents within the room might cause problems, and so on. If you live in more of an apartment style then talk about how you can keep the common areas clean and what you truly cannot do. If problems do begin to occur do not let them stew! Address the problems head on and be sure to advocate for yourself respectfully.
For roommates who are living with a student with a disability, there is a very strong possibility that this could be the first time they have lived with or even interacted with a person who has a disability. For you, also, communication is key. Talk with your roommate and ask how you can help alleviate stress. This shows that you care about the situation and are willing to adapt to what they need. You do not necessarily have to completely change your life to adjust to your roommate’s needs but you do need to be aware and considerate, as with any roommate. In addition, if you do not like something that your roommate with a disability is doing, do not target something that they have already expressed is difficult for them to complete or have no control over. Instead, talk with them to see how you can help them that day or in that situation. This shows compassion and awareness.
Essentially, the main focus for both roommates is open and honest communication. If there is a lack of communication, then the living arrangement is not going to be fun for anyone. Since there is so much to discuss when you do live with a student with a disability on campus there can be many questions about how to approach the situation. If you have any questions or need help facilitating a conversation with your roommates, please reach out to the Disability Resources Office or the Residence Life and Housing Office, both located on the ground floor of Van Hoesen Hall.